Why you get treated the way you get treated

[Evil-Rage]

My crazy ex just sent me a link to this self-therapy page (note: she's a therapist) because I've been freezing her out (note: because she's crazy) and apparently she's trying to subtly suggest that I'm the one who needs help. Never mind that she's the only person who's acting the way she's acting, and I'm doing fine socially as far as other people go (better than before, in fact!).

Anyhow, here's the link.

A couple of choice quotes:

Start by setting clear goals such as:
"Today I'll get Sam to be more respectful of my ideas."
Or, "By the end of the month I'll get Georgia to say that I seem different."

Notice what works and what doesn't work.

An automatic "snowball effect" will take over.

If you believe you must be "sweet" or "nice" you invite being used.

There's a lot of info on that page that relates in one way or another to LT or other forms of self-improvement. Thought it'd be worth a look, and particularly valuable as a non-LT/seduction view on things.

[Ancient Mariner]

Why is it that every girl I've ever met pursuing a psychology degree is nuts?

[Evil-Rage]

Originally Posted by Ancient Mariner

Why is it that every girl I've ever met pursuing a psychology degree is nuts?

My theory is that all women are crazy (several of my female friends/fuck buddies have agreed with that point of view), and that the ones who're interested in how the mind works are still crazy, with a little bit of psycho on the side.

I think the worst part is that through learning psychology, they learn to manipulate people by learning how the mind responds to different actions and situations, and so they become much more effective at being crazy bitches.

But that's just my theory.

[buddix]

Originally Posted by Ancient Mariner

Why is it that every girl I've ever met pursuing a psychology degree is nuts?

The old stereotype is that people go into psychology to understand their mental problems.

[themuz]

"It only matters if you care what they think" should have been the whole text in that link.

[Night]

It's easier to blame others for how we are treated
than it is to take responsibility for our invitations and make changes.

But blaming doesn't work,
and changing our invitations does.

Going a bit against her own advice, isn't she?

[Billydee2.0]

In general, we subconsciously teach/train others how to treat us. We cannot CONTROL other people and how they react, but we can control how WE react to them. In aggregrate, our own behavior has a massive impact on how others treat us--how we come across, how we react, how we handle ourselves, etc. Even if a specific individual doesn't treat you the way you WANT to be treated, you can still either alter your own behavior to get the desired effect or at the worst case, simply eliminate/go around (i.e. NEXT) the individual.